Thursday, April 1, 2010

Friends forever

So last week, I went on a date with my friend Amy. We met on the Plaza and had dinner. Andrew met a friend, Elliot, and had dinner with him.
I met Amy in Gap and we wondered through Barnes and Noble and then decided on Dinner, where the creepy manager was a little too friendly. After dinner we headed to Anthropologie (excitedly) to realize that the Plaza stores lock up on a Friday night at 7:00pm! BOOOOO! SO DISAPPOINTING!!!

I am not writing this to tell you of our shopping experience, but that I don't see Amy much. There are a lot of friends that I don't see much. But I love those friends that as soon as you sit down, (or walk through a store) your conversation has purpose. We immediately talk about things that matter because we don't get to have conversations every day...NO WASTING TIME.

However, since Friday, I have spent quite a bit of time thinking about our dinner. I realized that the last time that I was at dinner with a friend at a restaurant, Just me and a girl, was last time that I met Amy, in October and then I met some friends from Springfield with Jodi in Dec (or January). As I talked to Andrew, he realized that the last time that he had a meal with with Guy, was with Matt, when Jodi either just had John or was pregnant with John...who is nearly 2.

I think two things play into this...We can't do things on weekdays, and Friday night is a night when we go hang out with friends (which really doesn't happen that much) and Saturday night we have to be up so early on Sunday that staying out late doesn't appeal to us much anymore...
Want the truth?
It really kinda sucks. I feel like I have no friendships that are constantly developing, I only have friends that survive because they have already passed the test of time and long distance.

When I talk to other women, even women who have multiple kids, they are involved in some sort of "girl time" whether once a month or weekly. I love Andrew and we need time that isn't work time, but when all time is work time we cherish the times we go out...which takes up the nights that girls may be doing something...So the solution? We have to try to get something figured out for next year so that I can actually spend time with girls who are older than 18.
(not that that is bad)
I know that some of you will say, I was in town for a week and called you and we never figured anything out...That is because my weekdays are insane, and unless it is written in my calendar 2 week ahead of time, it isn't going to happen.

I know this sounds like a horrible downcast post, and I am sorry for that. It isn't. I am very happy with my life and I feel like the way I use my time is great...I just wish I had more girl time, that's all.
What do you do?

Thanks for stopping by.


Jenn Lynne said...

Well I'll be home this weekend, but things are crazy and its last minute...however, I think I might come home for a couple days depending on what appoints are like up here and such around the 18-20th...maybe we should plan something NOW in case I am?!? :-) I'm over 18, most days. haha. Love ya!

Anonymous said...

Sar, I tried to leave a message just a second ago, but it didn't work! I just want you to know I love you and miss you so much. You should totally fly out to Colorado and we can have a girl weekend! Or, maybe I'll do that and come to KC! What about at least skyping soon? I can totally relate to your post and it really made me realize how much I also miss Amy. I know I need to call her, but I'm so afraid she hates me. .. Anyway... I love you!


Amy said...

I made your blog! I made your blog! Woop woop! :) I loved spending time with you.

And in case Steph sees this: I don't hate you. At all. And you should totally call me! And I fully support you going to KC and us all getting together for a mega girls weekend! How fun would that be??!!

krista said...

Sar, I think of you often. More than you would know. I'm proud of you and what you do. You're always in my prayers. Sending lots of love to you and Andrew from spfd.

5sny said...

Sarah, I didn't know how to send you a message. I'm Sesha and Amy's roommate. Well, I was wondering if you would tell me how you used the template that you are using. I tried to download it and everything, but I'm still completely confused as to how to get it as my template.


Amy said...

Steph- Yup. My number is the same. I look forward to hearing from you.

Sarah said...